about me

I am a partner at the Family Separation Clinic, an organisation that offers specialist services to families experiencing divorce or separation. I practice therapeutic mediation and have particular expertise in working with high conflict families and in cases where children have rejected one of their parents. I previously worked on policy and development at the Centre for Separated Families, a national charity that uses whole family interventions to support parents in bringing about better outcomes for their children after divorce or separation.

I am a BBC Online parenting expert and the co-author of The Guide for Separated Parents (Piatkus 2007) with my colleague and wife, Karen, and Divorce for Dads (Two Dogs 2010) written with former Manchester United and England goalkeeper, Gary Bailey. I have also written parenting information and articles for, amongst others, Parliamentary Brief, Early Years Educator, the UK government’s Child Maintenance Options service and the Separated Dad’s Guide.

I have recently provided policy responses to the Family Justice Review and the reform of child maintenance and have given oral evidence to the House of Commons Work and Pensions Committee on both child maintenance reform and the Welfare Reform Bill.

I am currently a member of the Centre for Social Justice’s Working Group on Family Breakdown which is considering family stability, community level family breakdown, including father involvement, and intense family breakdown, including specialist intervention for complex families and the role of extended families. I also contribute to the work of the Royal College of General Practitioners Domestic Violence Stakeholder Group.

I work directly with families and also design and deliver training to other professionals working with family separation. I am an ADR Mediator, accredited by School of Psychotherapy & Counselling Psychology, and sit on the International Committee of the Academy for Professional Family Mediators.

I believe that children adapt more successfully to life after their parents divorce or separate where both parents are able to remain involved and both are able to support and adapt to their children’s changing needs over time.

I consider that the traditional model of support to separated families – the recognition of a ‘lone parent’ and ‘non resident parent’ – is both divisive and unhelpful and believe that these divisions, which are usually based on gender expectations, do not help either parents or children to build new family relationships post separation.

I am convinced that the only model that helps parents to successfully negotiate the transition from parenting together to parenting apart is one that recognises the different experiences and expectations of mothers and fathers and builds services to support them.

You can find out more about me on my website here

The views expressed here are  mine, unless otherwise stated, and do not necessarily reflect those of any individual, organisation or project to whom the author is or has been associated or contracted either formally or informally.

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